How did we decide on a boy, you ask? Well, growing up, I always wished that I had a big brother. I am the oldest of 5. Also, more people adopting from Ethiopia seem to want girls (specifically, baby girls), so we are hopeful that this might help speed things up as well. Christopher's sister has 2 boys. We love our nephews! Boys are what we know! So, that's how we came to the decision!
One other reason to get a boy is then you don't have to do the girl's hair. Believe me other Black or African-American women will look down on you if you don't have your girl's hair done properly in braids and such. It takes a lot of time and commitment, as it is very much an image thing for them plus curly hair, especially their kind of curly hair, is sooo delicate. If it is not taken care of properly it will become very damaged and break off a lot.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't do it yourself then you will have to pay someone to do it for you and not only does that get very expensive, you also will lose respect from "them" for doing that as well. It seems the only way to gain "their" respect is to learn to do it yourself and do it very very well. But that comes at a price. I have carpal tunnel from all of the years of braiding and re-braiding my girls hair. But I am glad they are able to have good looking hair and are respected in the community by others of their race. Best of luck to you, hope your baby comes soon.